You cant be liking it all. You gotta align your interest well so that you dont end up wasting your time trying to praying for something you aren’t gonna eventually enjoy.
But in order to find out what you would love to do, you gotta have the courage to even try it all.
When I started working towards helping my mom understand about her overthinking, the circle of my clients increased. As my mom started introducing me to all her friends who were facing depression and stress. She introduced cutely stating that, ‘my daughter is good at ‘this”
She didnt know what is it called but soon my friends started defining it as ‘psychology’
They started introducing me as a therapist friend. And infact started refering me so much that from a business student I felt like psychology is my thing and I could do it. I could really pull off being a psychologist. I shifted my stream finally. Only to regret it 2 years down the line and re-shifting to business.
I realised my dynamics of understanding human behaviour messed up more when I used to read theories and experiments. The words like psycho-dynamic theory, cognitive psychology, cognitive behevioural therapy, etc made me feel so small for the entirety of vision regarding healing I had in my mind.
I felt that humans and their story was so delicate and beautiful and none of the concept ever mentioned that. Every concept of it left me with a doubt that wait, a person is facing something, and we are drawing theories on it? we are drawing stats on it?
Now, being offended if you tell me that physicians do thate same and we do not question them. Then let’s not forget that physician check on how our organs should behave. Healing of emotions was all about a human who could talk, feel and sense. All it needed was some extra support.
Imagine going through a family trauma, and having a therapist draw 4 circle on their paper to later draw a flow chart and showcase the traits of each member of your family!
Is it that difficult to find how you could heal someone? And, theories dont heal, techniques do a little.
We say all individuals are so different and yet we stick to providing the same way of dealing with the problem kinda solutions. How fair is that?
I rarely see good psychologists out there, rare who are actually solving your problem. Who are taking your healing beyond books. Psychological knowledge is definately important but then to feel normal! you need a therapist or a person who has the passion to actually help you out.
I hated the fact that I wasted my 2 years to try doing this degree. Rather it was better for me to become a mental health coach who had the formulas created by self. Which also actually worked with testimonials.
I really put in so much time, money and efforts to realise that this wasn’t something which was providing me a better wisdom then what I already had.
I didnt mind shifting fields later on, but I still count that I could have been 2 years sooner. Regrets stay!
Hence, clarify yourself. Know that what you are planning to achieve with all the passion and motivation wont still be acheived if at the end it is not something that is gonna provide you satisfaction.
